The age old search for a job or for love is no different and Matrix Recruitment Group’s Joanne Foley recently had the pleasure of discussing the remarkable similarities between the processes of finding a job and finding love with 2FM’s Nicky Byrne and Jenny Greene. The stages we go through emotionally and physically can be quiet overwhelming and exhausting, and in both situations we find ourselves asking – What do I really want? What do I really need? Is this right for me?
Stage 1: I need love/I need a job
The realisation stage – You become stuck in a rut and see your friends getting all loved up or beginning to climb the career ladder. You then begin to notice there’s something missing in your life and a change needs to happen and quick. It’s time to find either that dream job or that dream partner. Or maybe both!
Stage 2: Selling Yourself
The honesty stage – You make note of your best qualities and characteristics, putting it all on paper, as well as joining a recruitment or dating agency. You also sign up to LinkedIn or Tinder and agonise about the perfect profile pic and coming up with a witty one line summary about yourself.
Stage 3: The Search
The filtering stage – Your recruitment or matchmaking agency is assisting you in the search for ‘The One’ but you also keep an eye on jobs and potential partners online. You also get all glammed up and hit the town for a night out or a careers fair, depending on what you’re after!
Stage 4: This Could Be “The One”
The hopeful stage – You know what you want at this stage and find something or someone that ticks all the boxes (or enough that you’re willing to learn more!). You think of a clever and eye catching intro line and finally hit the send button. Now the waiting game begins!
Stage 5: It’s a Match!
The pensive stage – After constantly refreshing your emails and checking your phone, a potential partner or employer gets in touch and wants to meet up. Relief and euphoria is followed by a healthy bout of nerves. ‘What do I say?’ ‘Will they think I’m interesting?’ ‘What will I wear?’
Stage 6: The First Meeting
The meeting stage – The constant wardrobe changes and potentially awkward introduction sets the butterflies off again but once the conversation starts to flow, you relax. It goes well and you make your way home feeling ten feet tall.
Stage 7: The Next Day
The waiting stage – You review the initial meeting and panic sets in; did they like me? Why did I say that? Eventually the phone buzzes and they really liked you too. What a relief!
Stage 8: Trust Your Gut Time
The decision stage – At this point you have been on a few more dates or attended a second or maybe a third interview. Your feelings are now clear and you have to decide what is right for you. Maybe you have found the one and it’s time to make a commitment or maybe it doesn’t feel quite right and you decide to keep looking.